Wednesday, December 11, 2013


     You guys always ask me to update my blog, well here you go and this is a Real topic that is mentioned alot in our time now. ARE WOMEN MORE INSECURE THAN MEN, OR ARE THE MEN? what do you think? what's your answer? well lets's compare the two. We will start with the MAN... Since the beginning of time Men have always had the role of being the provider. He is to always provide for his woman and family at any given cost. Now back several years ago this was a stressful job,  it is very much stressful today but with even more pressure, do to todays demand's from women also competing with other successful men. In this new generation if a man does not have money 9 out of 10 a woman is not interested in him. He could treat her like a queen with kind words, back rubs etc it's still not good enough, because if he does not buy her nice gifts, help her out with bills etc MOST women aren't looking at him as someone she can be with long term. She is probably not even taking him serious and has lost intrest in him quick. So with this kind of pressure to catch the attention of a woman a man may go out and put his freedom also his life in danger just to upgrade his status. Or he will pretend to have money just to attract a certain womens attention. This is like playing with FIRE because once she realizes he lied about what he had a woman is completely turned off and has lost all respect for the man. Wow That is a mans biggest possible insecure issue (his status and money). You see because a lot of women don't care about a mans looks as long as he has money  (sad truth) Now lets move on to the woman, Now several years ago a woman may have had insecurity's but they have nothing on today's women. You see a woman never had the role of being a provider, rather she was poor or a queen of egypt, her job was to raise the children and stand by her man. To support his decisions, take care of him sexually and pretty much she was worry free. But today's woman has a physical pressure, Because of rap songs, what the media says is beautiful or a (DIME) Alot of men expect all women to have big breast a small waist and a big butt. Hmmm now how is this even possible? most women are not Naturally built like that it has always been just a few here and there. Even the late Mailyn Monroe was rare back in her time because of her beauty and curvy body. She had a body that even alot of the black actress did not have back in those times. This is another reason why men went crazy over her, she was known for her curvy body. Plastic surgery was not at it's all  time high back then, It was something that alot of women may have wanted to do but were to ashamed to get it done. Now in days women are so pressured to have this body they will do anything to get it. Spend tons of money they really don't have just to compete with the woman that was born with it. Why? Because they see how men treat her, how they adore her, how they are willing to spend money on her, She is the cool female that ever man/ even some women lol want's a piece of. By doing all this just to stand out alot of women have lost their lives, or have been left with ugly scars mentally and physically. Then lets talk about how men claim to only like LIGHT SKIN women smdh. You see this on twitter, instagram, magazines, You hear it come out a man's mouth, You hear this in Rap songs by you favorite rapper. This is by all means sad and it takes US right back to the slavery days smdh, I have heard & seen men say this and I KNOW ALL OF YOU HAVE TO unless you have been living under a rock all your life, that they will take a light skin female over a brownskin female any day of the week. Or they think light skin females look better than brownskin females no matter what. REALLY?? I am a light skin Woman  here to tell you as you have seen me say on my TWITTER even in interviews several times that I have seen far more Beautiful Brownskin women in my life time then light skin woman. So why people always put lighter women on a pedestal is beyond me. My sister @ashlee_ray is the most beautiful woman I have ever laid eyes on, I have been saying this for years!!1 and most of you if not all of you know this. Ashlee is a beautiful Brownskin woman, big slanted eyes, High cheek bones, a narrow nose with fully lips. Yes my dears this is her natural face, she has done nothing to it to gain this look (GOD DID THAT ) LOL Exotic at it's finnest. As beautiful as she is she has had Men tell her she is the first brownskin woman they ever found attractive, she is not a normal looking Brownskin woman, she is to exotic to be... WTH. Ashlee is very confident in herself so when she would tell me about men saying this to her I knew it did not bother her one bit, because she is very secure with herself. So who is most likely more insecure in the time we are in now? Men are always judged on the their status following the amount of money they have. Woman which all of us are beautiful in the skin we are in no matter the shade or size unfortunately have a heavy weight to carry to look a certain way. Where did theses demands come from?? I will leave you with this.... as women and men we all need to realize the amount of pressure we put on each other and stop this cycle! start accepting people for who they really are. Not making them feel like they need to reach a certain mark of  acceptance  to be considered something worth  adoring. We all need to do better at building each other up, letting people know it is the most beautiful thing to JUST BE YOU:)  being different from othere's is what makes us all special, when everything is alike it loses it's zest and meaning.

Monday, June 24, 2013


    Hello my lovely readers I am writing this due to a email I got on my blessings, about the world in general. Let me First start off saying I had to learn how to Love myself (sound weird right?  In middle school I was Highyellow, small framed With long curly hair and I felt that I looked weird.  As time went on with the help of my MOTHER and GOD I began to love who I was and accept myself how God made me, I never looked back from that point. Loving yourself sound's easy but is one of the hardest things to do, especially with all the unrealistic things that the world now pushes down America's throat as perfect, Physically and material wise. The truth of the matter is we are ALL PERFECT no two people were meant to be the same in any king of way, that is what makes us AMAZING:) Ok Lets talk about PLASTIC SURGERY (YES it is the most talked about thing now on the internet and in general period). Now about me I am 100 percent NATURAL, My body is not perfect, has never been perfect and will NEVER be perfect. I have gone from the body weight stages of skinny as a young child, to big as a young teen, to a size I was happy with to smaller to big again lol even bigger lol. Going through those stages were not supper easy mentally but since that love that had been planted in me by my Mom ( I thought who cares I am alive,live be happy lol) I want to say this I NEVER want to make any one feel bad that have had plastic surgery or wear's weave because they choose to. My thing is being who you REALLY ARE is the most beautiful version of yourself you can be. We aren't talking about people with Cancer that wear wigs etc. My Italian Grandmother has Cancer and she still doesn't wear wigs lol nana has a short hair cut lol That is her choice. Lets talk about material things, No it is not good to EVER FLASH YOUR BLESSINGS. Its almost like bragging because you never had something but finally do now. I will not sit here and lie as if I have never done it, unfortunately I did it due to being to humble never showing my blessing, having people question what I had when in reality its none of their business. So I fail for that trap, posted pictures of money cars and jewelry (basically saying just because I don't show it off doesn't mean I don't have it. There was no point in that because STRANGER'S OPINION of you should NEVER matter especial if its negative or they are guessing your life situations without knowing you on a personal level. If you live your life trying to prove facts about you to a bunch of STRANGERS you will be lost at sea never able to return. In this life people are going to talk negative about you for no REASON at all, or maybe because of some insecure issues they have with themselves, you will never know. Never pick your brain trying to find out  as long as you know the truth and who you are that is the only opinion that has any credibility. All this goes back to CAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF with all the negativity that surrounds this world now? My Mom & Dad has always taught me to be in this word but not of it( meaning live in this world but don't let the world become you. Never get attached to things that have no meaning in your world. I have to say thanks Mom & Dad because without your teachings of all the trails and dark valleys you knew I would cross in life I may have been consumed by this world.  So lets all practice together in loving our selves, instead of looking at what you don't have find things that you are grateful for that you do have. Don't measure your  happyness to someone else's blessings.  None of us have to look very hard to find that we all have so much to be happy and blessed about.:)

Monday, March 11, 2013


                       This post is a update on some things that I have noticed with being apart of social media also giving time to being on the internet period. Have you ever noticed how the world has changed over the last 3 to 4 years because of the internet?? There are more children committing  suicide over cyber bulling then there has ever been. Do to people posting pictures of them  Slandering them and making fun of them, with them or their parents not knowing how to get images or the videos removed. This is by all means not good. Its easier for children to see porn and other images that a child should not be seeing at a young innocent age. Has social media change your REAL social life?? What I mean by this some people rather talk to complete strangers that are on social media instead of the REAL people that are in their lives. This has put a imbalance on cyber verse Reality. A lot of people are really living their lives through the internet, looking to be validated  by people that are complete strangers. Then there are those who live to put other people down on the internet because their real lives are so miserable. These kind of people really wake up every day jump on their phone or computer to write negative comments about people they don't know from a can of paint.  In a sick reality this pleases their minds and souls to do this with no regrets or even a single thought of this is really wrong smh. What have we become? Have you ever noticed what dinner looks like at a restaurant now? When you walk in most of the times peoples heads are buried in their phones, no one's conversation is with each other, its with their phones. Another crazy social change people rather text then pick up the phone and actually call a loved one to hear their voice. Believe it or not these new acts are pushing us further apart from the people we really love, it makes conversations at dinner, picking up the phone to call some one a thing of the past. Take a look at everything I am saying I am sure you will find plenty of facts in it. Its up to us to change it, the social media and internet has be come the new addiction, It seem to be the new CRACK in virtual form. Well lets all kick this addiction together :) The first step is admitting you are a addict then seeking help to fix it:) in this case facing REALITY.

Thursday, February 21, 2013


               It looks to me that we now live in a world that is so caught up on status they miss the bigger picture on what's important. Everyone is following what's hot even if they don't really think its hot, hmmm does that make sense? NO! when you fall into this trap you lose your Essence. You no longer have that glow that separates you from others. When it comes to Me I do just that Me lol I wear my real hair that is mid back length, I  have A ALL NATURAL BODY that at times can go up in down in weight lol oh well it makes me who I am.  I never wear makeup unless its lipgloss. That defines who I am it makes me different. When it comes to my fashion I wear what I think its cute. True as you can see I am really in to names but ONLY if I like the designer not because its what's hot. I will spend a couple of thousands on a designer hand bag but I cant see my self spending the same amount on shoes lol WHY? shoes are the dirties item we most likely own in our closet. They carry germs and hold bacteria lol Now I will spend a couple hundreds on shoes but thousands? every blue moon and the moon is not blue often lol.:) Enough of what makes me ME. I think Some people only do things a lot of times to seem cool, to fit in, or to seem the same as other's who are placed on high levels. When did just being yourself become so WRONG? The world is truly a place to learn your self along the way but losing yourself along the journey means you have failed life's lessons.  If you realize that everything in life will pass including you one day you wont be so quick to get caught up in the unnecessary events of today that won't matter tomorrow.